Guy: So, your date...Sure he had the job and the degree, but was he a real man?
Girl: What do you mean?
Guy: I mean was he a MAN? If you guys are in bed, and you hear someone breaking into your apartment at 2AM will he jump up and grab a baseball bat, or would he lie under the covers with you?
Girl: I don't know, that's a good question...
Guy: Is he the type of guy that will hold your hand when you're having a baby and you have a lot of gross stuff coming out of you, while he wipes your forehead and tells you that you're beautiful? Or is he the type of guy that will sit in the lobby because he can't handle it?
Girl: This is all important, but I can't know all of that from a first date.
For some reason, that hit me really hard, and I think it's very true. It's difficult to know when a guy is a real "man" until you're both forced into a difficult situation that you need to face together. Love is wonderful when things are all cheerful and great, but the terrible moments are when you see someone's true nature. That's honestly the scariest part of being vulnerable. It can happen in friendships, too. It's not an easy thing...Having someone I know I can rely on it probably one of the most important qualities that I'm going to look for.
Also- I can't believe I did a whole vegan post without mentioning how I randomly found this short film originally from 2006 Brooklyn Film Festival via someone's troll comment on a vegetarian forum. (This is odd and creepy but also kind of amazing. If you like Twin Peaks, you'll like this.)